October 2016
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Rabbi Cy Stanway

There is a profound beauty at this time of the year that seems to touch the soul.  As the season changes to an obvious autumn our lives, too, have changed.  We will have moved from the Days of Awe to the Festival of Sukkot.  Like the Sukkah, we have come to face the reality that we are temporary and fragile creatures with finite lives.  The prayers on Yom Kippur reminded us that spiritually and Sukkot reminds us of it physically.  It is the fragility that motivated the Rabbis to decree that on Sukkot, the Book of Ecclesiastes should be read.
We all have our stories of fragility.  We have experienced sickness and most of us have experienced a death in the family of someone close to us.  And yet, despite all the reasons we may have to walking lamentation day in and day out, few of us actually do that.  We say that ‘life is for the living’ or ‘choose life’ and that is the rock-bottom truth of what we are as Jews.
We do not look forward to a moment after death when we are in the Garden of Eden or reunited with our deceased loved ones.  There are many people who believe that but that is not a Jew’s goal.  There is, in fact, no liturgy that tells us what happens after death nor how death is somehow better than life.  In fact, the only standard statement about death is in the traditional formulation of one of the blessings in the Amidah, the Gevurot.  In it, we praise God for ‘resurrecting the dead.’ It is as if the Jewish goal after death is to bring back to life! (The Reform movement has changed this phrasing slightly, by the way, and it does not specifically mention the resurrection of the dead but, rather, ‘who gives life to all.) 
Sukkot, then, is a Festival of Life even though it speaks meaningfully of our temporary lives.  The Sukkah becomes a metaphor for the world: fragile, broken and not lasting very long.  And yet what are we supposed to do in the Sukkah?  Just like we do in the world: we are supposed to actually live in the Sukkah, sleep and eat in it.  Many people bring in their TV’s and fridges and spend as much time in the Sukkah as they can!  And just as we decorate the Sukkah, we are commanded to decorate the Sukkah and turn what can be a symbol of only finitude into a symbol of living in joy.  Sukkot is the Festival when we celebrate the joys, colors, smells and textures of life not just in spite of, but maybe because of, our awareness of our own mortality.  We Jews celebrate life in the face of darkness and sorrow.  For us, there is no other way.
I have always felt sorry for the Festival of Sukkot in a congregational setting.  Coming five days after Yom Kippur people are often too tired to put much energy into the Festival.  But this year the Cantor and I have put together 7 days of Sukkot filled with celebration and joy as a community and as friends.  There are dinners, lunches, services, Scotch tasting (yes, really!) and activities for families and adults from the first day to the last.  Sukkot has come alive at Beth Miriam and during the Festival, we will embrace the beautiful, the spiritual, the joy, and the mortality and with full hearts make our Festival an exclamation mark, not a wimper, to the Days of Awe.

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From the Cantor
Cantor Marnie Camhi

L’Shanah Tovah! Happy 5777! I am looking forward to seeing all of you for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur (and Sukkot and Simchat Torah too!). October is a busy month for all of us- filled with the sights, sounds and experiences of the High Holy Day Season: familiar songs and melodies, sweet foods, t’shuvah, t’fillah, tzedekah, old friends and new friends, building a sukkah, waving a lulav and etrog, marching with the Torah, oh my! Be sure to check the TBM calendar for all our events for this special season!
My family and I wish you a shanah tovah u-m’tukah (a good and sweet year)!
Cantor Marnie   

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SALTY enjoyed hosting a very successful NFTY GER  kick off.  This event was the first of its kind and we were told the bar was set high.  Paired with their NFTY GER regional board counterparts, the SALTY board spent hours preparing to host the kickoff at Temple Beth Miriam.  Over 100 Jewish teens and 20 adult youth workers and rabbis came down the shore for a day filled with fun mixers, an interesting Beit Midrash on various Jewish hot topics, leadership workshops for all board members, and fun Chugim including Israeli dance and outdoor childhood games.  Our SALTY board learned a lot working with their counterparts on creating a successful large-scale event like this one. 
On behalf of SALTY,  I would like to thank Michael Vernick for helping to prepare and cook lunch, and I would also like to thank Meryl Ledwitz, Danielle Delcuore, and Marissa Lambert along with her daughter Raina for coming out that day and setting up and breaking down lunch that day.  It is crucial to have adult volunteers in order to have such a successful event and their efforts,  contributing their valuable time on a Saturday to come and help is deeply appreciated by all members of SALTY.


The Eisenberg Bierman Religious School is up and running again after a restful summer. Students are reuniting with classmates and meeting a few new ones too.  It's a sort of treat that the High Holidays are a bit later this year, reducing the frenzy to prepare everyone on advance. One way we took advantage was by taking our youngest grades to the Pink Elephant Pottery Studio to make apple plates for Rosh HaShana. The studio was gracious to open just for us on a Sunday and the Project was funded by the Roz Nagel Fund For Special Projects.  The teachers and I appreciate the parents who provided rides to the studio and the students really enjoyed making these beautiful apple plates that were able to be complete in time for the holiday!

School Librarian
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Chase Kaplan and I’ll be continuing as school librarian this year. I’d like to let you know about a few changes to our library program this year.

We’ve set up a temporary children’s library downstairs to help our students explore our ever-growing collection of books as we transition to our new library. This year, we’ll be focusing a lot more on exploring different books relevant to our Jewish calendar. Thanks to the generous contribution of our temple Sisterhood, we have reintroduced the ability for students to check out books (something many of them have already had the ability to take advantage of) along with a new, streamlined database system to manage our collection and book circulation. Students now have their own library cards (these stay in the library), and will have 10-15 minutes toward the end of each library period to explore for new options. Library classes are held every 2nd and 4th Sunday of the month, and books should be returned every library class. Students are welcome to bring books back early to their teachers during non-library days, and students who would like more time to read their books may renew them during the following library class. You will be notified if books are significantly damaged, lost, or not returned for two library classes. We hope all children enjoy this effort to enrich and expand their Jewish literary experience.
We have compiled a wish list though Amazon and already have received several boxes of books from Ellen Beller, Marian Gross and  Tom Gavin & Susan Stone in honor of Sophie's bat mitzvah. If you, too would like to make our wishes come true, please use this link: https://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/15YGC3YOVU1QU/ref=cm_sw_r_fa_ws_t2_Gwg0xbRMMN816

Our library will be going through some renovations this year and we are so excited about it. It's one of the few spaces that still needs an upgrade. Currently we are working on plans and soon we will be looking for gifts to help pay for it.  We are hoping to turn the space into an attractive multimedia meeting room and the work should be complete by the spring, if all goes well.

Please don’t hesitate to contact Mrs. Stanway or myself regarding any questions about the library. Shana Tova and may this year bring nothing but blessings for you and your family.
Chase Kaplan


Our softball team played our second game on Sunday, September 18 at The Fireman's Field in Oakhurst.  We play a seasoned team from Monmouth Reform who recently finished their 10th season playing in a league. 
After a shaky start and going down 11-3 TBMs bats lit up.  After 5 innings the game was tied at 22.  Did we have another rally in us?  Absolutely.  We rallied for 8 runs in the bottom of the 6th and needed them.  The game ended with a pop-up to third and a TBM victory.   
We were good at both getting runners on base and hitting the long ball with late game home runs by Jeff Reisler and Scott Gerbman.  There were excellent defensive plays by Steve Reisler, Steven Foster, Jacob Bader, and David Lambert.  We had solid pitching from Jay Lowenstein, Jeff Segal, and John Calcitrai.  Danna Kawut and Steven Topper were our catchers and also played the field.  As last game showed Alan Bonnar, Jason Harkavy, Steve Peckman, Alan Goldman, and Scott Gillet all know their way around a softball field and all contributed with much needed hits.   
I hope everyone can take pride in all the wonderful things Temple Beth Miriam offers, including an undefeated softball team.  
Happy New Year!
Barry Edison
President (and coach) of Men's Club


The Men's Club is happy to be sponsoring two upcoming events in October.
Lets show off our strength physically and in numbers on Sunday,  October 16 at 9:15am as we help assemble and decorate our Sukkah.  Bring veggies and fruits, both real and fake. 
Also join us for a Scotch Tasting on Sunday, October 23 at noon at TBM.  An expert will educate us on all types of Scotch.

Nominating Committee
In October the Nominating Committee will be meeting. If anyone is interested in serving on the Board please contact me at MGross@ghclaw.com or the office at 732-222-3754.

Thank you,
Michael Gross
Past President


Hi! My name is Sarah Kaye, and I’m preparing for my Bat Mitzvah! I am entering seventh grade this year at The Rumson Country Day School. I have two older brothers, Andrew and Matthew, who have both been Bar Mitzvahed at Temple Beth Miriam. My favorite activity is dance. I sing, play piano, and also play field hockey and lacrosse. I have two black labs, Dozer and Tootsie, and I love playing with them.

For my Kishrei Halev project, I volunteered at Sunrise Assisted Living Facility in Wall Township. Throughout the summer, I have gone to Sunrise twice a week to spend time with the elderly. Most of my time has been spent one on one with a very sweet woman named Susan. She really looks forward to our time together playing games, reading, solving word searches, and just talking. It has been an extremely meaningful experience for me, and I plan to continue to visit as often as I can in the future.

I look forward to celebrating my Bat Mitzvah and sharing all of the special things that I have learned with my family and friends.

A Reflection of Camp Harlam

“Camp is where friends become family.”   This is a motto we say all the time at Camp Harlam. At camp all of my friends have become sisters and brothers to me.  Every year I grow a stronger bond with camp and the people in it.
Whether it is chilling in the bunk and talking to buds, services in the chapels, and/or climbing the tower with your friends, memories and new experiences are  everywhere.

One of the reasons why I love camp is that everyone is very accepting. Whether you are in the LGBTQIA community or have any type of disorder, people will accept you for you.  Another reason why I love camp is that it is a way to connect to Judaism. Camp is a fun place to hang with friends, and there are also many fun times we get to connect to G-d. One of my favorite things we do is Havdalah on Saturday night. Havdalah is when we all come together and separate Shabbat from the normal week, and we make this fun by singing with multiple people playing guitar. One more reason why I love camp is that not only do I get to do things that I love, but I also get to do things that I would never be able to do at home. Things like zip lining about five times in the span of a month and go on a full stream hike while cracking jokes with my closest friends.

Camp has made my life so much better. It has made me closer to G-d, let me be friends with people who don’t even live in the same country as me, and has taught me who I truly am.  
-Sadie Kawut (Camp Harlam Camper)


Friday, September 16th, Jacob Knotts son of Beth and Tim was married to Kelly Burns, from Dallas, TX. The ceremony was held at an intimate outdoor ceremony on the side of Boreas Pass (at about 11,000 feet above sea level) in the Colorado Rockies (just outside of Breckenridge, CO).

Jake wore his yamaka and tallit from his bar mitzvah, and all drank from his bar mitzvah Kiddush cup!
The ceremony took place under the cover of a Huppa sewn & created by Bethelena, with Jake’s 3 siblings and Chris holding the four corner poles. They both work, and make their home, in the Dallas-Fort Worth area.

May their memories be a blessing

October 7

Irving Agisim
Samuel Auerbach
Albert Bashover
Emanuel Beitman*
Lillian Brofman
Esther Cantor
Lillian Cohen*
Zelig Dutchkin
Evelyn Eichenbaum*
Herman Goodman*
Charlotte Haas
Arnold Kalmus*
Samuel Kava*
Edward Leimberg
Sara Marcus*
Albert Mulnick*
Allen Primost
Ruth Raskin
Ida Rosen
Celia Rutenberg*
Sadie Sandler
Herman Stein*
Scott Turchin*
Charles Weber*

October 14

Lydia Goldsmith Weiser
Maurice Ader
Simon Alfond
Ann Barr
Jay Berg*
Samuel Berman
David Bitterman*
Eileen Bregman*
David Doctorow
Harry Feder
Isabel Freeman*
Helen Fried*
Irwin Gillet
Perry Goldstein
Helene Groman
Olga Hirsh
Freda Horowitz
Bertha Karp*
Phyllis Kart
Frieda Katz*
Leo Katz
Herman Krosney*
Jesse Lager*
Yetta Lester
Olga Lichtman Hirsh
Octavio Lopez
Margo Neumann*
Fanny Obstgarten
Morris Reby*
Sidney Rubenstein*
Samuel Segal
Fannie Simon
Ona Spector*
Milton Spitalny*
Genevieve Willock
Seymour Ziff


October 21

Nancy Allman
Richard Applebaum
Shirley Berke
Mollie Blank
Lillian Casirel
Eric Davis
Lester Eisenstodt
Raymond Eisner*
Tillie Futuronsky
Miles Gartenberg
Pauline Gerber
Alvin Heimlich*
Carl Harvery Kaplan*
Lowell Landberg
Charles Lowy
Sade Mirsky
Ann Nebret
Abraham Neimark*
Samuel Nussbaum*
Saul Peck
Richard Peckman
Anna Richlin
Aubrey Robinson
Beulah Rokeach*
Mattie Rosenberg
Harold Rubin*
Michael Seinfeld*
Dora Strauss*
Harry (Hank) Strauss*
Hary Tucker*
Sebastian Vacarro*

October 28

Mildred Bennett*
Evelyn Berger*
Clara Bergman*
Benjamin Berkowitz*
Seymour Berkowitz*
Pauline Bloch*
Hattie Cohen*
Helen Daniels*
JoBeth Eagel*
Amanda Feldman
Fay Feldman
Max Freeman*
Rose Garland
Bernard Gartenberg
Gertrude Gelb
Martin Gray*
Isaac Greeman*
Alexander Grieco
Meyer Gross
Manny Grossman
Ben Gruskin
Zizi Hananel
Arthur Hecht*
Ann Hodes
Louis Holzman*
Rose Horowitz*
Joseph Kirshbaum*
Ethel Kremens
Michelle Lefkowitz
Benjamin Lunbin*
Morris Lubin*
Morris May*
Samuel Morse
Della Moser
Hyman Negin
Joshua Neimark*
Joe Ross
Millie Rubenstein
Louis Segal*
John Shaffer


Tzedakeh Fund

In memory of Rhoda Gillet
-Carole & Karl Maling

In memory of Carol Mainzer
-Susan Jewell

In honor of Al & Irene Landis on their grand daughter
becoming a Bat Mitzvah
- Bill & Janet Fromkin

Rabbi Joseph Goldman Fund for Jewish Learning
In honor of Tessie Epstein's marriage to Matthew Clevy
- Martin & Sondra Epstein

The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievement 

In memory of Rhoda Gillet
-Milt & ClaraGee Ziment

In honor of Milton & ClaraGee Ziment's 25th Wedding Anniversary
-Bob & Ilene Kellert

In honor of Lenny Berkeley on his 70th Birthday!
Happy Birthday!
-Norm & Vicki Brosniak

In memory of Golda Stokhamer
-Norm & Vicki Brosniak

Social Action & Community Affair Fund
Many thanks to Steve Peckman and Chase Kaplan for
all their help with my music project.
-Cantor Marnie Camhi

In memory of Carol Mainzer
-Susan Jewell

Pess Family Youth Group Fund
In memory of my beloved father Octavio Lopez
 on his yahrzeit.
-Nydia Panis

In memory of Rhoda Gillet
-Faith Lessig

Roz Nagel Fund
In memory of Alex Cohen.
-Fran Cohen

In memory of Rhoda Gillet
-Tom Gavin & Susan Stone

Temple Beth Miriam Wish List Fund
In memory of Rhoda Gillet
-Bob & Ilene Kellert

TBM Camp Fund
In memory of Rhoda Gillet
-Rita Berkow & the Boser Family

Temple Beth Miriam Funds List 

Tree of Life - $180
The Yahrzeit Memorials -$500
Prayer Book Fund (inscribed $36)
Social & Community Action Fund
Family Affair
Heimlich –Aaron Library Fund
The Endowment Fund
Centennial Fund
Tzedakeh Fund
Rabbi Joseph Goldman Fund for Jewish Learning
Religious School Renovation
Heimlich Memorial Scholarship Fund
Dorothy Hirsch Scholarship
Rabbi Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Rabbi Discretionary Fund)
 Cantor Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Cantor Discretionary Fund)
 Roz Nagel Fund for Religious School Special Projects
 The Carolyn Meyer Memorial Lecture Fund
Neimark Shabbaton Institute
Berg-Bialek Youth Leadership Retreat Fund
Conn Music Fund
The Norty Kern Youth Scholarship Fund
Arthur & Hazel Harmon Fund
The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievement
Sonya Grossman Art & Beautification Fund
Temple Beth Miriam Wish List Fund
The Katz Family Fund
Temple Beth Miriam Camp Fund
Library Shelves  - $1,000
Evelyn Blank Choral Fund
Pess Family Youth Group Fund
Teacher's Endowment Fund
TBM High Holiday Schedule 2016/5777

Sunday, October 2
Erev Rosh Hashanah 8 PM
Monday, October 3 Rosh Hashanna
Children’s Service (1-5yrs) 9 AM
Morning Service 10 AM
Community Family Service 3 PM
Tuesday, October 4
Second Day Rosh Hashanah Morning Service 10 AM
Friday, October 7
Shabbat Shuvah Service 7:30 PM
Sunday, October 9
Cemetery Service 10 AM
Tuesday, October 11
Kol Nidre 8 PM
Wednesday, October 12 Yom Kippur
Yom Kippur Services
Children’s Service (ages 1-5) 9 AM
Morning Service 10 AM
Study with the Rabbi 1 PM
Community Family 3 PM
Musical Spiritual Reflection 4 PM
Yizkor (Memorial) 4:30 PM (approx.)
Neilah (Closing) 5:30 PM (approx.)

AnchorTBM welcomes the following new members with open arms and open hearts.

     Mitchell & Mary Newmark
                                                      Ocean Grove, NJ

                                            Mark Flamendorf & Mary McConnell
                                                            Ocean Grove, NJ

                                            Caren Chesler & her son Edwin Holmes
                                                          Ocean Grove, NJ

                             Dr. Eric & Caryn Adler & their children Rachel & Chelsea
                                                             Holmdel, NJ

October  Birthdays & Anniversaries
 Youth who Dream Dreams

Sarah Farber
Linda Geltzeiler
Matthew Silverman
Julia Reisler
Allyson Bazer
Jonah Eichenbaum
Skylar Katz
Madelyn Bader
Alison Chomsky
Gabrielle Goldwert
Charles Fabricant
Maya Brosniak

Our Wise Seniors

Gladys Glassman

Marty & Judi Steinweiss
Dave & Dana Fisher
John & Adele Poplawski
Richard & Dina Schwadron
Barry & Joanne Edison
John & Geri Girard
Jeffrey & Maxine Miller
Alvin & Amy Goldman
Steven & Susan Peckman
David & Marissa Lambert
Eddie & Jo Eichenbaum
Gregory & Suzette Fromkin
David & Debora Schatzow
Scott & Dana Galkin
David & Kris Fisher
Michael & Audrey Vernick
Abraham Gindi & Dana Solomon
Tim Knotts & Bethelena Weston-Knotts
Ira & Lynette Zohn

AnchorNeed to get in touch with your board representative?

Committee Chairperson

President Harry Silverman hjsilverman@optonline.net                              
Rabbi Cy Stanway rabbi@bethmiriam.org
Cantor Marnie Camhi cantor@bethmiriam.org
Religious School Principal Stella J. Stanway stellastanway@bethmiriam.org
Administrator Shari NIghtingale tbmoffice@bethmiriam.org
Administrative Assistant Frankie Langer tbmreception@bethmiriam.org
Youth Group Leader Stella Stanway stellastanway@bethmiriam.org
Youth Group President Sallie Haas salliehaas@yahoo.com
Building Superintendent Rosy Franceschy 732-762-4335
Family Affair Cy Stanway  rabbi@bethmiriam.org
Fund Allocation Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
House Committee Larry Nagel nagelone@optonline.net
Investment Comm Harry Silverman hjsilverman@optonline.net
Membership Steve Silver steve.silver@gmail.com
Rel. Sch. Bd. Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
Sisterhood - Point Persons Debbie Gerbman dgerbman@comcast.net
 Cindy Singer cinsing@aol.com
Relig. Pract. Sharon Silverman shari4h@gmail.com
 Marian Gross mariangross@msn.com
Special Events Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com 
Youth Group Gary Pess handman613@gmail.com
Social Action Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
Programming I. Mark Cohen imarkcohen@comcast.net
Fundraising Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
Immediate Past President Michael Gross mgross@ghclaw.com
Vice Presidents Robert Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
Treasurer Lori Goldstein lgoldstein83@verizon.net
Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
I. Mark Cohen imarkcohen@comcast.net
Men's Club Barry Edison eyedocbarry@aol.com
Secretary Emily Feldman fancyme123@yahoo.com
Trustees Deborah Cotler dcotler@monmouth.edu
Danielle Delcuore danielledelcuore@yahoo.com
Emily Feldman fancyme123@yahoo.com
Andrea Fiest afiest@aol.com
Brian Gillet gilletbg@optonline.net
Alvin Goldman alvingoldm@aol.com
Lori Goldstein lgoldstein83@verizon.net
Marian Gross mariangross@msn.com
Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
Joel Kreizman kreizjo@aol.com
Stuart Lippsett lippsett1@verizon.net
Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
Andrea Phox andreaphox@gmail.com
Patricia Shapiro patshapirorn@aol.com
Sharon Silverman shari4h@gmail.com
Wendy J. Sloter redheadwjs@comcast.net

Rabbi Emeritus z'l Joseph Goldman



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