December 2016


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Rabbi Cy Stanway

These past few weeks have been a whirlwind of events in my life.  The death of my father, the shiva, the election of President-elect Donald Trump and the subsequent controversies about his cabinet choices, the arrival of my daughter Naomi from her year-long tikkun olam work in Rwanda and the day to day responsibilities of serving the congregation have made my November the most eventful month in a long, long time.  And to think that the Hebrew month of MarCheshvan is, according to the Hebrew calendar, the most non-eventful month in the year!

But Cheshvan is over and, though there is a unique emptiness in my life and possibly in the lives of many of you, we have an opportunity to come together in our celebration of Hannukah. 

Our rabbis have wondered why the Hannukiah, the Hannukah menorah, is lit from one candle to eight as opposed from eight to one.  After all, it makes sense to count down as the festival progresses.  There was a small discussion about the rabbis and the conclusion was that we light an extra one every night because Judaism is a faith that seeks to increase the light when possible, no diminish it.  I love that idea.

The darkness is always followed by the light and through and with community the light completely replaces the darkness.  It is time to celebrate as a community and to affirm our Jewish values which is what Hannukah is about.  It is our time to affirm our value of religious freedom and the struggles to maintain it for ourselves and support the struggles of others for what we demand of ourselves.  It is our time to affirm that individual acts of respect and love and acceptance will have profound effects on the lives of those we interact with and that, in reality, no one and no institution has power over our thoughts and faith.  Hannukah is a time to affirm not only our Judaism but to bring the increasing light into hearts that are often dark.

I hope that you will share with us our Hannukah dinner and service on Friday, December 30 and celebrate with light and food and come together as a community and share our faith in the light that will permeate all the darknesses.  And, as you celebrate with your families and friends, may you feel the warmth of family, the joy of the light of your lives and the flavors that bring laughter and happiness into your lives. 

May you increase the light in all you do and all your are.  Chag Hannukah Sameach!  A Joyous Hannukah!

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From the Cantor
Cantor Marnie Camhi

Youth Choir and Purim Spiel Announcements!

Do you have a child enrolled in the TBM religious school or Teen Academy that likes to sing? If so, our amazing Youth Choir is for them! It is open to TBM students in grades 3-12. The Youth Choir will be singing for Chanukah on Shabbat on Friday, December 30th. Rehearsals will be on Sundays immediately after religious school on December 11 and 18. Your child must attend both rehearsals to be eligible to sing for the service on December 30. Please RSVP to me by December 7 (

We are also planning ahead for Purim!! This year’s Purim Spiel will be The Little Mermaideleh! Auditions will be on Sunday, January 8th immediately after religious school. The sign-up sheet will be posted on the music room door beginning December 11th. All TBM religious school students in grades 3-12 are welcome to audition for a speaking/singing role. Students in grade 2 can be in the chorus (no audition). Adults that are members in good standing are also welcome to be part of the show. Rehearsals will be on Sundays immediately following religious school beginning January 22nd. The spiel will be performed on Sunday, March 12. Please email me with any questions.

Thank you!
Cantor Marnie                                                     


Hello Everyone,

It’s almost Hannukah!  We hope you’ll join us at our Hannukah Shabbat Dinner & Game Night on Friday, December 30 at 6:00 PM.  It’s open to everyone, so please RSVP by emailing or by calling the office at 732-222-3754.  Also, don't miss our Annual Congregational Meeting on Sunday, December 18 at 9:30 AM.  We will have breakfast and music from Art Topilow and friends.

As we approach the end of the year, we will send you invoices for the new year, in case you wish to pay your bill in advance of 2017.  If you have had a change in  your status, such as adding a spouse or subtracting a spouse or if both adults are turning 65 in the coming year, please contact the office.  It could mean that you will have change in your dues.  We will send your 2016 tax letters shortly after the new year.

Warm wishes for a Happy, Healthy Hannukah and a Wonderful New Year!

Shari Nightingale & Frankie Langer
Temple Beth Miriam Nominating Committee Report

The Nominating Committee appointed by the President consists of Board Members Brian Gillet and Lori Goldstein and non-Board members Annie Swartz and Stella Stanway, and Michael Gross as Nominating Committee Chairman.

The Nominating Committee met and thoroughly discussed all potential nominees by reviewing the entire Temple Membership list.  The Nominating Committee hereby nominates the following members to the Board of Trustees with a term to expire at the end of 2019:
1. Robert Kellert
2. Wendy Sloter
3. Len Berkeley
4. Steve Silver
5. Heather Foster
6. Chase Kaplan
The Nominating Committee also recommends the following Officers to be elected by the Board of Trustees after the annual meeting:
1. Harry Silverman – President
2. Mark Cohen – Vice President
3. Brian Gillet – Vice President
4. Barry Edison – Vice President
5. Lori Goldstein – Vice President
6. Robert Kellert – Treasurer
7. Wendy Sloter – Financial Secretary
8. Emily Feldman – Corresponding Secretary
From Vivian Fried and the Rummage Sale Committee:
Thank you to the following people that lent a hand at our Rummage Sale this year! We appreciate all the time you spent helping to contribute to the success!
Paula Adler 
Al Fried
Lynn Ledwitz
Susan Assaro
Fran Applebaum
Vivian  Fried
Meryl Ledwitz 
Eileen Borodich
Barbara Bascom
Janet Fromkin
Ron Ledwitz
Beth Cottler
Natalie Bellucci
Debbie Gerbman
Rebecca Levin
Chrissy Devivo
Dawn Berkeley
Jacob Gerbman
Maxine Miller
Sandy Fox
Leonard Berkeley
Ryan Gerbman
Larry Nagel
Alan Bonnar
Amy Goldman
Terry Negin
Norman Brosniak
Susan Goldman
Bobbie Newman
Jill Panone
Caren Chesler
Lori Goldstein
Judy Peckmore
Carol Ronan
Kathy Cohen
Florence Hauer
Karen Pingitore
Emilia Rosen
Mark Cohen
Susan Hodes
Michael Pingitore
Greg Rosen
Alan Darnell
Lisa Jacobson
Alissa Reisler
Judy Sherman
Joni Darnell
Chase Kaplan    
Reina Reisler
Jean Vitale
 Debbie Deener
Keith Kaplan
Cindy Singer
Toni Vitale
Grace Dressner
 Gail Kass
 Wendy Sloter

Edison, Barry
Kawut, David
Steinberg, Barbara

Edison, Joanne
Kellert, Bob
Steinweiss, Judy

Farkas, Holly
Kellert, Ilene
Topilow, Judy

Foster, Heather
Knotts, Tim
Topper, Gayle

Kreisman, Susan
Weiner, Nancy


Our Rummage Sale was a great success.  We made over $5,000 minus expenses of advertising, food, maintenance and supplies.  We also will be adding the proceeds of two paintings donated by David  Nussbaum when they are bought!

Thank you to Rabbi Cy, Stella Stanway, Harry Silverman, Shari Nightingale and Frankie Langer for their help in “getting the word out”.  I must thank Al Fried for his hours of “administrative” skills to me!  Thanks to Tello and Rosey for being there for us. 

Whether you worked an hour or came in every day for the nine days we thank you so much.  A special thanks to the men who helped set up and break down - it’s appreciated.  And to our security team!  You did great.

A special thanks to our “Temple friends “ Jean, Toni, Susan and Lela who sold over $800 in our jewelry boutique!  Our request for jewelry from the congregation certainly paid off.  And many thanks to Greg and Emilia for their continued help and to Tim for picking up the bikes!

Our boutique made over $1,000 and our “new” gift department made $200.  IT ALL ADDS UP!

To those who could not help but made donations of clothing, etc. we thank you.  Can’t do it without “STUFF”.  To those who were unable to help this year, we missed you and see you next year!

At the end of our sale our Boutique is donated to Jersey Shore University Medical Center Thrift Shop.  Coats, jackets, sweats and anything warm are donated to our Youth Group’s Midnight Run to the homeless in Asbury Park.  SPCA gets blankets and pillows and books were donated to an organization.  A Trenton mission picked up thirty clothing bags for the needy! 

Happy Holidays, be well, and see you next year!

High Holiday Food Drive

Thanks to everyone for your generous donations to the High Holiday Food Drive. We collected 140 bags of food this year (approximately 1400 pounds) and $220 in donations. The food was split between the pantries at the Lutheran Church of the Reformation in WLB and the Mercy Center in AP. Both pantries were very grateful for the generosity of everyone. The money is being used to help both pantries complete their Thanksgiving baskets for their clients and again is greatly appreciated. Thanks to the sisterhood for the donation of the bags and for help stapling the flyers. Thanks to the youth you helped with the bags and handed them out after services. And a very special thanks to Tim and Beth Knotts (pictured below) who stepped up and offered their truck to collect the food and made the deliveries to the two pantries.
 Events Happening here at TBM....
Join the Social Action Committee for a special
Shabbat meal and service on Friday, December 2nd!
Dinner will begin at 6 PM. We will be featuring our renowned
Chicken Noodle soup, Vegetarian Lentil Soup, and Butternut
Squash Soup. There will also be homemade challah
(gluten-free will be available), salad and macaroni and cheese.
Cost: Adult price of 10 dollars includes dinner and a TBM mug!
Special pricing for kids who do not want the soup mug –ages 5-12 will be $5 and ages under 5 will be free.Please reserve your place today either using chaverweb or by calling the office at
                                                  732-222-3754 by November 28th. Special Social Action
                                                    Service following dinner at 7:30.
Jews On The Chocolate Trail
Author Talk
By Rabbi Deborah Prinz
With Chocolate Breakfast and Book Signing

      Date: Sunday, December 4, 2016
     Time: 9:15 am - 11:30 am
      Location: Temple Beth Miriam
     180 Lincoln Ave, Long Branch, NJ
     Cost: Free for TBM Sisterhood Members
                                                           $10 per person for Non-Members
                                           Reserve seat by 11/27 - late fee of $5 after this date
                                  or 732--222-3754

Rabbi Prinz draws from her world travels on the trail of chocolate to enchant chocoholics everywhere as she unwraps the role of Jews in the trade, retail and manufacture of chocolate since it was first introduced to Europeans. Activate your inner “choco-dar,” your radar for chocolate experiences, on this delectable journey through the Jewish history of chocolate—a real treat!

Chocolate & More Breakfast will begin at 9:15 am, featuring recipes from Rabbi Prinz’s book. Coffee, tea, and non-chocolate selections will also be offered. Rabbi Prinz will speak at approximately 9:45 am.

A limited number of copies of On The Chocolate Trail will be available, on a first come basis, for purchase and signing at a discounted price.

Thank you to TBM’s Wonderful Volunteers

Thank you to those people who provided and coordinated refreshments for the minyans at TBM for Rabbi Cy’s father. A big thank you to Rabbi Brooks Susman and Cantor Marnie for conducting the minyans and to Tello for his help setting up and in the kitchen.

Thank you to all that provided and sponsored onegs last month, including Susan Stone & Tom Gavin for providing in honor of Sophie's Bat Mitzvah, and the grandparents of Elena Fisher for providing in honor of her Bat Mitzvah. Thank you to Ilene & Bob Kellert for sponsoring this month. Thank you to Debbie Gerbman and the Sisterhood for always stepping up and helping out with our onegs.

Special thanks to Tim and Beth Knotts as they took time out of their busy schedules to demonstrate the use of the temple’s defibrillator.  They demonstrated its use as part of a board meeting and to our High Holiday ushers to refresh our knowledge. 

Mazel tov to Jonathan Goldsmith Cohen, Esq,  son of I. Mark Cohen and Kathy Cohen, who will be installed as president of the Jewish Family & Children’s Service of Monmouth County.

May their memories be a blessing

December 2

Albert Ballin*
Marcia Barrett Baker
Mary Beam
David Bosniak
William Davis*
Beatrice Deutsch
Mitzi Fox
Gloria Fried*
Daniel Goldman
Harry Gorsky
Miriam Graff
Sylvia Gray*
David Greenstone
Claire Haber*
Bernard Halbstein*
Carrie Hamburger*
Stuart Haupt*
Louis Hersh*
Lillian Holstein
Pinkus Jaffe*
Mary Keller
Helen Klein*
Miriam Klein
Esther Lefkowitz*
William Marlin
Albert Newfield*
Michael Panetz*
Leo Pearl
Nan Sachs
Meyer Satsky*
Gilda Stanway
Jerry Tamkin
Ira Tiplitz*
Ruth Tucker*
Irving Weston*
Samuel Wetzler*
Susan Zaback*
Israel Zimring

December 9

Martin Blank*
Dorothy Burnhardt*
Gert Conn*
Estelle Eisenberg*
David Emmering
Sol Friedman
Sidney Goldstein
Benjamin Goldwasser*
Pauline Green*
Jean Halbstein*
Adolph Haupt*
Israel Kotkin
Herbert Lippsett
Delores Lorber
Solomon Neimark*
Benedict Neimark*
Edith Shaw*
Jerie Sloter
Anna Stamelman*
Nathan Strauss
Barbara Tanenbaum*
Harry Zuckerman*


December 16

Harold Aaron
Adah Ash
Helene Baron
Zena Barr
Bernard Bedrick*
Moises Braiman
Charles Brand*
Steven Brower*
Mortimer Cole*
George Eichler*
David Elsas
Adele Elsas
Ethel Elsas
Adele Elsas
Mimi Fink
Nathan Glick*
Marion Grad*
Rose Hader
Rose Hasburg*
Jack Herbert*
Millicent Kaplan*
Richard Klein*
Sadie Lawn*
Morris Leibowitt*
Kitty Lubin*
Barbara MacArthur
Jeanne Michel*
Hedy Miller*
Edith Moorse
George Moss*
Albert Parker
David Ralby
PFC Frank Reingold
Joseph Rosen
Charles Rosencrans*
Diana Schatell
Laurence Stamelman*
Gustav Steinhardt*
Sophie Straus
Adolf Strauss*
Elias Teich
Howard Strauss*
Elias Teich
Milton Tenzer*
Harry Vesell*
Bette Wagenheim
Juliet Weiss
Sheldon Wolpin

December 23

Lucille Brand*
Lena Budish
Rose Denburg
Marion Dent
Peal Dworkin*
Michael Erhard
Jerome Feldman
Beatrice Frankel*
Gloria Franzblau
Bernard Fromkin
Simon Gillet
Julius Golden*
Eva Goldstein
Morton Kavanaugh
Charles Kaye*
Irving LaKritz
Samuel Lane*
Louis Levy
Harry Marshall
Irving Primost
Harry Raffel*
Elaine Restifo
James Schneider
Carl Schultz
Harry Singer
Mazwell Spector
Dorothy Steinweiss*
Elsa Strauss*
Jacob Tanenbaum*
Seymour Van-Wiemokly
Harry Vogel*


Please note:  Donations that were made that are not listed in this newsletter will be
added to January Newsletter.

Teacher's Endowment Fund
In loving memory of Lyle Stanway and deepest condolences to
the Stanway family on their loss.
-Frank & Rae Marsico

In memory of Lyle Stanway
- Mark Harris & Staff at Bloomfield-Cooper

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Monte Rosen

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Myrna & Bob Raskin

In memory of Lyle H. Stanway
-The Board of Trustees at TBM

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Al & Vivian Fried

In memory of Lyle Stanway
- Judi & Dr. Marty Steinweiss

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Shari Nightingale

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Wendy Sloter

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Elaine Espey

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Roger & Lyne Zieve

Temple Beth Miriam Wish List
In memory of Fred Hader
-Frank Marsico

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Janice Szymanski & Family

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Phyllis Wahl

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Andy & Laura Krantz

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Harris & Mary Bass

In memory of Lyle Stanway
- Peter Kouveliotes & Mary Zieve-Kouveliotes

Teacher's Endowment Fund
In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Sharon & Harry Silverman

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Gregory Beckman

In memory of Lyle Stanway
- Janet & Bill Fromkin & Bella Stein

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Debbie & Marty Arbus

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Bobbie & Bob Krantz

In memory of Lyle Stanway
- Clifford & Carole Fishman

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Jane Gerechoff

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Sylvia Ehrenhalt

Conn Music Fund
In memory of Rhoda Gillet
-Jane Gerechoff

Milt Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievment
In memory of Donald S. Rotwein
-Julia Rotwein

Tzedakeh Fund
In memory of Solomon Sagalovsky
-Filipp Sagalovsky

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Roberta Newman

Conn Music Fund
In memory of Solomon Sagalovsky
-Filipp Sagalovsky

Family Affair
In memory of Fred Hader
--Judy Benn

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Judy Benn

Condolences to Esther Lysaght on the passing
of her mother, Naomi Pietarsky
-Judy Benn

The Conn Music Fund
In honor of Bob & Ilene Kellert's good health
-Aurthur & Judy Topilow

In loving memory of Lyle Stanway
-Maybeth Nadler

The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievement
In honor of Michael & Valentine Lifton's good health
- Aurthur & Judy Topilow

In honor of ClaraGee & Milton Ziment for their kindness.
Al & Vivian Fried

Social & Community Action Fund
In memory of Herb Sorkin
-Elaine Espey

The Rabbi Discretionary Fund
In memory of Sidney J. Cohen
- Mark & Kathy Cohen

Pess Family Youth Group Fund
In memory of Jerry Levy
-Wendy Sloter

Kol Nidre Appeal Contributions

Eric Adler
Lisa Angeles
Francine Cohen
Sandy Cohen
Roy & Grace Dressner
Sylvia Ehrenhalt
Elise Feldman
Thomas & Andrea Fiest
Michael & Marian Gross
Bob & Ilene Kellert
Richard & Terry Negin
Steve & Sue Peckman
Gary & Lois Pess
Norma Rosenbloom
Dr. Stuart Rosenberg & Melissa Peck
Julia Rotwein
David & Debra Schatzow
Karen Shaffer
Virginia Wiener
Temple Beth Miriam Funds List 

Tree of Life - $180
The Yahrzeit Memorials -$500
Prayer Book Fund (inscribed $36)
Social & Community Action Fund
Family Affair
Heimlich –Aaron Library Fund
The Endowment Fund
Centennial Fund
Tzedakeh Fund
Rabbi Joseph Goldman Fund for Jewish Learning
Religious School Renovation
Heimlich Memorial Scholarship Fund
Dorothy Hirsch Scholarship
Rabbi Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Rabbi Discretionary Fund)
 Cantor Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Cantor Discretionary Fund)
 Roz Nagel Fund for Religious School Special Projects
 The Carolyn Meyer Memorial Lecture Fund
Neimark Shabbaton Institute
Berg-Bialek Youth Leadership Retreat Fund
Conn Music Fund
The Norty Kern Youth Scholarship Fund
Arthur & Hazel Harmon Fund
The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievement
Sonya Grossman Art & Beautification Fund
Temple Beth Miriam Wish List Fund
The Katz Family Fund
Temple Beth Miriam Camp Fund
Library Shelves  - $1,000
Evelyn Blank Choral Fund
Pess Family Youth Group Fund
Teacher's Endowment Fund

December Birthdays & Anniversaries
Youth who Dream Dreams
Lyla Gill
Olivia Gill
Sarah Jaye
Lena Goldfarb-Rivera

Our Wise Seniors
Norma Rosenbloom
Shirley Berman
Richard Agisim

Steve & Fran Silver
Stuart & Barb Eichenbaum
Eric Levin & Nancy Conn-Levin
Howard & Marian Jewell
Arthur & Judith Topilow
Mark & Kathy Cohen
Paul & Jill Levchuk

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Committee Chairperson

President Harry Silverman                              
Rabbi Cy Stanway
Cantor Marnie Camhi
Religious School Principal Stella J. Stanway
Administrator Shari NIghtingale
Administrative Assistant Frankie Langer
Youth Group Leader Stella Stanway
Youth Group President Sallie Haas
Building Superintendent Rosey Franceschy 732-762-4335
Family Affair Cy Stanway
Fund Allocation Bob Kellert
House Committee Larry Nagel
Investment Comm Harry Silverman
Membership Steve Silver
Rel. Sch. Bd. Steve Peckman
Sisterhood - Point Persons Debbie Gerbman

 Cindy Singer
Relig. Pract. Sharon Silverman
 Marian Gross
Special Events Bob Kellert 
Youth Group Gary Pess
Social Action Steve Peckman
Programming I. Mark Cohen
Fundraising Steve Peckman
Immediate Past President Michael Gross
Vice Presidents Robert Kellert
Treasurer Lori Goldstein
Steve Peckman
I. Mark Cohen
Men's Club Barry Edison
Secretary Emily Feldman
Trustees Deborah Cotler
Danielle Delcuore
Emily Feldman
Andrea Fiest
Brian Gillet
Alvin Goldman
Lori Goldstein
Marian Gross
Bob Kellert
Joel Kreizman
Stuart Lippsett
Steve Peckman
Andrea Phox
Patricia Shapiro
Sharon Silverman
Wendy J. Sloter

Rabbi Emeritus z'l Joseph Goldman



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