FROM ALL OF US AT BETH MIRIAM
Rabbi Cy Stanway, Cantor Marnie Camhi, Principal Stella Stanway, Shari Nightingale,Frankie Langer, Rosey Francheski, Tella Delgado, Janice Szymanski
 
 
 
 
 
January 2017
 
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Rabbi Cy Stanway


Apparently, the ‘word-of-the-year’ by the folks who tabulate such things is ‘post-truth.’  I am still wrapping my head around that.  What, exactly, is post-truth?  ‘After truth’?  If the truth about something is the truth, how can there be a time ‘after the truth’?  What is it supposed to mean?

Well, it purportedly means that the verifiable truth is no longer important.  What is important is only how you feel and not about what actually is.  What this means is that if you feel as if certain people should be left on the margins of society, that is alright because you can always justify keeping them there for whatever reason.  If you feel that science is wrong about something, it is easier just to ignore it and maybe the problem will go away since we feel uncomfortable with the truth.  And so on.

The one and only problem with this is that, aside from the truth being the foundation upon which the Jewish people look at the world, the truth always has a way of bubbling forth, regardless of how we feel.

Before Einstein, people thought that everything in the world was absolute.  There was absolute time.  There was absolute speed.  There was absolute space.  There was absolute mass.  What time it was here was the same time at the other end of the universe.  A metre here was a metre there.  One second here was one second there.  And so on.  Books and scientific papers were written based on this Newtonian idea.  It seemed perfect.  Too bad it was wrong.

Einstein proved there is no absolute time.  There is no absolute space.  There is only relative time and relative speed and relative space.  People resisted what they saw as a crazy notion.  In fact, when Nazi Germany was in its infancy it had such a visceral reaction to Einstein and his relativism because, if Einstein was right (and the leading German scientists knew he was), and everything is relative to each other, what to make of the definiteness and dogma of Nazism?  They even called relativity 'Jew Science' - that is how they felt.  People felt Einstein was wrong and so, even to this day, there are those who simply won’t accept the arithmetic.

What does this have to do with truth?  Everything.

While we can argue that truth may or may not be absolute, one thing we can say is that the truth can be gleaned by the discerning eye relative to something else.  If we stay within the bubble of our own prejudices, we will never, ever see the real truth.  Truth only becomes what we say it is.  Truth becomes our particular political, religious, or philosophical bent.  “Don’t bother me with your thoughts.  They don’t fit my feeling,” is the bumper sticker of the ‘post-truth’ world.  That is until the real truth comes and bites us where we live.  Then we take notice.  Often, though, it is too late.  We may hope that the crocodile of ‘post-truth’ does not consume us but the reality is, it does.  It just consumes us last!

Sooner or later, the truth always emerges.  And that is where the Jewish message rings forth loudly – truth may be trammeled upon but it always manages to get up and fight back. 

As Jews, we know this to be so and we have been the bearers of the messages of so many truths for 4500 years.  The Jews entered the world with a message that the world had never heard before.  Since that moment, so many have sought to repress the messages and the messengers.  But the Jewish message is the one that measures the world relative to where it is to where it ought to be.  Judaism is not a simple sounding board created to hear our own voices.  It is a bullhorn that speaks truth to power and reminds the world, regardless of what the world feels that there are real truths of justice, right, compassion, mercy and goodness.  Where we stand as Jews on those bedrock truths determines whether we will continue to be the bearers of that message or simply feel as if we are a light to the nations.  We may feel pretty good about ourselves.  But that is not the question we should be asking.  What we should be asking is ‘How does God feel about what we are doing?’   That is the bedrock Jewish question. 

‘Post-truth’ ought to come to mean what happens after truth and not the “feelings we have so don’t bother me with facts.”  And what has to happen ‘after truth’?  Judaism already answered that a long, long time ago: action and deeds.  ‘Say little and do much,’ our Sages said.  No truer words were ever spoken. 

And I feel pretty good about that.

Rabbi Cy Stanway

 
 
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From the Cantor
Cantor Marnie Camhi

Purim Spiel Announcement

We are planning ahead for Purim!! This year’s Purim Spiel will be The Little Mermaideleh! Auditions will be on Sunday, January 8 immediately after religious school. Bring a light lunch with you (no pork or shellfish please). The sign-up sheet is posted on the music room door. All TBM religious school students in grades 3-12 are welcome to audition for a speaking/singing role. Students in grade 2 can be in the chorus (no audition). Adults that are members in good standing are also welcome to be part of the show. Rehearsals will be on Sundays immediately following religious school beginning January 22. The spiel will be performed on Sunday, March 12. If your 2nd grader would like to be in the show, please email me to let me know. If you/your child in grades 3-12 would like to be in the chorus only (no audition), please also let me know. Please email me with any questions.

Thank you!
Cantor Marnie                                             
cantor@bethmiriam.org
 
 
Cantor's Webpage
 
 
 
From the Principal and Youth Group director
 
 
 
 
The Madrichim of the Eisenberg Bierman Religious School would like to thank members of the Sisterhood for their T-Shirts.  We have been wanting them to have a t-shirt for sometime now and we came up with a great design.  

The t-shirt is a means to teach the word Madrich and it’s proper use for girls, for boys and in the plural. We hope our team of Madrichim will wear these t-shirts with pride and in good health!!
 
 
 
 
 
Youth Group
 
 
 
 
TamTams enjoyed a Hanukkah Cupcake Workshop at Stella’s house. Many thanks to Danielle Delcuore and Marissa Lambert for helping and also to Sadie Cotler from SALTY for helping.
 
 
 
 
 
Installation Shabbat and Primary Shabbat
 
 
 
 
Everyone is welcome to join us for Primary Shabbat Family service on January 6th at 7:30 PM.  We will celebrate our wonderful children as they lead us in prayer.  As well, we will officially install our board members and offer a blessing for their work.  Please join us.
 
 
 
 
 
TBM Religious School/Teen Academy Reunion!
 
 
 
 
As we come to the close of the year 2016 and look ahead, we have come to realize that college students and post college young adults really have little connection to TBM other than (hopefully) lots of warm memories of Teen Academy, SALTY events and adventures at Religious School. We further realize that many are home over the winter break and that there are also many more than we realize who are post college and either living at home or near by.

So we decided to tap that demographic, gently, by simply inviting them to gather at TBM, annually, on the first Sunday when we are back from our winter break. In this way, we hope that this group of people feel welcome at TBM, and have a chance to reconnect with one another, the Rabbi and the TBM community.

This year our TBM Eisenberg Bierman Religious School/Teen Academy Reunion will take place on Sunday January 8 beginning at 9:30-of course breakfast will be served and will be completely free.

All we need is an RSVP.

Please SHARE with your college or post college student and encourage them to share it to their TBM classmates or acquaintances as we begin to compile our TBM alum database.
To RSVP for this event, please click here https://saltyyouthgroup.wufoo.com/forms/wapak660m0ujjv/

 
 
 
 
 
From the office
 
 
 
 
We would like to welcome the new members who joined us this past year and say Mazel Tov to those who had special occasions, such as B’nai Mitzvahs and special birthdays and anniversaries.  We mourned the loss of many loved ones, but we know their memories will be a blessing.  We would also like to thank those of you who volunteered to help out in the office, support our oneg shabbats, and stepped in to keep our children safe on Sunday mornings at religious school.  We appreciate you!

We are excited about the upcoming events, such as the Primary Shabbat Dinner and Installation of our new board members, the ever famous Canadian Picnic, and many other activities coming up from our amazing committees!  We hope you’ll look at our calendar and join us!  There’s something for all ages. Be sure to bring your friends!

By now you’ve received your 2017 statements, and we are busy working on your tax letters.  If you have any questions or concerns, always feel free to stop in and talk to us, or call any time.

Best Wishes for a happy, healthy 2017!

B’Shalom,

Shari Nightingale and Frankie Langer
 
 
 
 
 
Israel Visual Tefillah
 
 
 
 
Rabbi Stanway is putting together another Visual Tefillah service and wants YOUR Israel trip pictures!  It doesn’t matter how old the pictures are, just put them on a thumb drive and bring them to the temple for inclusion into the next Visual Tefillah service on March 3.

 
 
 
 
 
Meet your board members
 
 
 
 
Mazal tov to our board members who are all so dedicated to the temple.  From top to bottom, left to right, they are:
 
 
 
 
Harry Silverman (President), Al Goldman, Brian Gillet, Chase Kaplan, Wendy Sloter, Steve Silver, Barry Edison, Lenny Berkeley, Danielle Delcuore, Mark Cohen, Bob Kellert, Pat Shapiro, Lori Goldstein. (Not pictured:
Alan Darnell
Andrea Phox
Cindy Singer
Gary Pess
Heather Foster
Judy Berg
Marian Gross
Mike Gross
Paula Rowland
Rich Berger
Sharon Silverman
Stuart Lippsett

























 
 
 
 
 
Beth Miriam book club
 
 
 
 
The TBM Book Club will be discussing "Eve: A Novel of the First Woman" by Elissa Elliott on January 17th at 6:30 at the All Seasons Diner. We hope to see you there!

- Cindy Singer

 
 
 
 
 
This month we are celebrating the following children's Bat/Bar Mitzvah!


Isaac Torine is in 7th grade at Knollwood School in Fair Haven.  He loves playing basketball, rock climbing and wake boarding.  His favorite activity is hanging out with his friends.  For his Kishrei Halev project he raised money and soccer equipment for the Kefa Project.  The Kefa Project is an organization in Rwanda that helps young boys and girls who are orphans get off the streets, provide them with education and helps them become independent.  Isaac's goal is to be a sports journalist.
 
 
 
 
 
Portion of the Week study
 
 
 
 
Rabbi Stanway is happy to announce the beginning of a Portion of the Week study.  We will be learning the parashat hashavuah using commentaries and delving into some of the themes and issues in each portion.  We will meet beginning on January 7 at 11 am and the study will be about an hour.  A full calendar will be available on the temple website.
 
 
 
 
 
Thank you!
 
 
 
 
Thank you to Social Action and the Stanway family for sponsoring an oneg last month, and big thank you to Dawn & Leonard Berkeley for sponsoring two onegs in honor of Bernard Bedrick and Teri Berkeley.  In addition, thanks to Dawn and Lenny for making the Brandl event last month happen!

Thank you again to Pat Shapiro who volunteered some time in the office last month. As always your help is greatly appreciated.

A Special Thank you from Rabbi Stanway

Dear Family Affair and Temple members,

I want to thank you for our expression of condolence and your acts of tzedakah as you planted trees in Israel, made contributions to the temple, send so many cards and letters, and visited during shiva in memory of my father.  I deeply appreciate the sincere condolences from the committee and from individuals and families.
Thank you,
Cy


 
 
 
 
 
Rabbi Stanway's Mishkan HaNefesh reflections
 
 
 
 
Rabbi Stanway will be sharing some reflections throughout the year on the new Days of Awe prayerbook, Mishkan HaNefesh that will be in the E-lijahs and on the temple website.  You can read them from the links below:

 
 
 
 
 
 
Movie Night Sing-a-long
 
 
 
 
Join us on February 25 for Movie Night as we watch and SING to the music of “Dirty Dancing” – a movie that takes place in the height of the Jewish Catskills and the relationship between Jennifer Grey (a Jewish teen) and Patrick Swayze (a non-Jewish dance instructor).  You know the movie.  You know the music.  Now let’s sing and have ‘the time of our lives’!  (You knew I would have to sneak that in somewhere!)  Watch this space for times and prices for the dinner.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
AnchorYahrzeits
May their memories be a blessing

January 6th

Virginia Adler
Lenore Agisim
Bridgette Billings
Pauline Bitterman*
Carol Bloom
Solomon Brower*
Serene Darnell
Mildred Edelstein
Sigmund Eisner*
William Falk*
Anna Fisher
Erna Friedman*
Estelle Hershoff*
Flora Housman*
Mortimer Jolles
Rose Kochansky*
Joseph Pearl
Gertrude Peters
Morris Pilver
Oscar Reiner
Abraham Revits*
Murray Rotwein*
Moses Scher*
Irving Schnur
Ethel Shevel
Helen Spitalny*
Myra Springer
Peter Stark
Frances Tiplitz
Vincent Vitale
Susan Warshauer*
Ruth Weber*
Regina Weston*
Ellie Yankow
Helen Zywotow*


January 13th

Benjamin Baser*
Abraham Bergman*
Mascha Bernstein
Claire Bloom
Susie Braiman
Martin Chomsky
Morris Cinnamon
Marvin Daniels
Lena Davis
Monroe Ehrenhalt
Sonia Epstein*
Pearl Goldman*
Theresa Greenstone*
Sonya Grossman*
Jack Gussow*
Barbara Haas
Mollie Halberg
Isaac Haskell
Florence Haupt*
Theresa Heimlich*
David Hershoff*
Sally Levin
Lucille Levy
Bella Mihalovich
Cecille Morris
Edith Moss
Arlyne Reiter
Martin Rosenberg
Joseph Shapiro
Harry Schoenberg
Herman Turkel
Geraldine Willner*
Max Zimring









 
 
 
 
January 20th

Jeanette Applebaum
Malvina Berger
Nettie Brobar
Sonny Brousell
Eve Brower*
Alex Cohen*
Esther Cohen
Mildred Cole*
Samuel Edelson
Elias Ehrenhalt*
Rita Epstein
Bernard Francis*
Marc Friedman
Rose Goldenberg
Sam Gross*
Joseph Grossman
Marjorie Hollander*
Ester Khajezadeh
Minnie Kohn*
Irving Krantz
Janet LaKritz
Anne Landau*
Margaret Lebowitz
Stella Levie*
Helen Marlin*
William Myers*
Betty Neiderhoffer
Louis Podell*
Betty Reiner
Henry Reschke
Ester Rotwein*
Anna Scher*
Mollie Schultz
Irving Singer
Marion Sokol*
Milton Wasserman
Julian Zellner*


January 27th

Martha Altman*
Jennie Brodie
Sophie Buchsbaum
Anita Chomsky
Philip Cohen*
Hyman Fastov
Sylvia Feinberg
Sady Francis*
Shirley Friedman
Pauline Fromkin
Sidney Futuronsky
Harry Goldberg
Morris Goldman
Sarah Gordon*
Mary Gray
Nathan Holstein
Nettie Itkoff
Irving Kaplan
Erving Kastner
Lucille Katchen*
Julius Klein*
Fred Korn
Henry Lager*
Morris Lefkowitz*
Annie Lubin*
Bernard Miller*
Emanuel Mullen
Pearl Neiderman
Jack Perlmutter*
David Reby*
Chaim Sagalovsky
Therese Schultz
Stanley Senett
Rose Shulman Fisher
Blanche Silverman
Emil Sostman*
Pauline Spector
Murray Ziment
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Endowment Fund
In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Shirley Berman

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Karen O'Rourke

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Robert & Gayle Topper

Teacher Endowment Fund
In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Flo Hauer

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Barbara Bascom

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Judy & Aurthur Topilow

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-The Swartz Family

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Pat Shapiro

In memory of Naomi Piekarski
-Harry & Sharon Silverman

In memory of Jerry Levy
-Harry & Sharon Silverman

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Alan & Lynne Ash

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Wendy Sloter

Sonya Grossman Art & Beautification Fund
In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Milt & ClaraGee Ziment

In memory of Fred Hader
-Milt & ClaraGee Ziment
 
 
 
 
Religious School Renovation
In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Michael & Marian Gross

In memory of Johanna Veit
-Michael & Marian Gross

The NORTY Kern Youth scholarship Fund
In memory of Norman Siegel
-The Swartz Family

Tzedakeh Fund
In memory of Jerome Levy
-Danielle Delcuore

In memory of Lyle Stanway
-The Maling Family

In memory of Lyle Stanway
In memory of Jerry Levy, father of Danielle Delcuore
-The Schwadron Family

Family Affair
In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Mary Beth Nadler

Rabbi Discretionary Fund
To Hillary Feinberg in memory of your mother
Shirley Lipstein.

To Ken Sims, in memory of Debbie Julian.

With love, Mal & Debbie Deener

Berg-Bialek Youth Leadership Retreat Fund
In memory of Lyle Stanway
-Bruce & Judy Berg


Rabbi's Discretionary Fund
In memory of my father Jerome Levy
-Danielle Delcuore

Cantor's Discretionary Fund
In memory of my father Jerome Levy
-Danielle Delcuore
 
 
 
 
 
Kol Nidre
Judy Benn
Timothy & Beth Knotts
Brian & Gina Gillet
Peter & Josephine Grayson
Paul Edelson
Jay & Barbara Van-Wiemokly
Sylvia Ehrenhalt 
Milton & ClaraGee Ziment

 
 
 
 
 
Temple Beth Miriam Funds List 

Tree of Life - $180
The Yahrzeit Memorials -$500
Prayer Book Fund (inscribed $36)
Social & Community Action Fund
Family Affair
Heimlich –Aaron Library Fund
The Endowment Fund
Centennial Fund
Tzedakeh Fund
Rabbi Joseph Goldman Fund for Jewish Learning
Religious School Renovation
Heimlich Memorial Scholarship Fund
Dorothy Hirsch Scholarship
Rabbi Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Rabbi Discretionary Fund)
 Cantor Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Cantor Discretionary Fund)
 Roz Nagel Fund for Religious School Special Projects
 The Carolyn Meyer Memorial Lecture Fund
Neimark Shabbaton Institute
Berg-Bialek Youth Leadership Retreat Fund
Conn Music Fund
The Norty Kern Youth Scholarship Fund
Arthur & Hazel Harmon Fund
The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievement
Sonya Grossman Art & Beautification Fund
Temple Beth Miriam Wish List Fund
The Katz Family Fund
Temple Beth Miriam Camp Fund
Library Shelves  - $1,000
Evelyn Blank Choral Fund
Pess Family Youth Group Fund
Teacher's Endowment Fund
 
 
 
 
 
January Birthdays & Anniversaries
 
 
 
 
 Youth who Dream Dreams
Araiya Casriel
Eden Cotler
Jolie Harkavy
Joseph Bader
Ezra Lambert
Issac Torine
Rachel Silverman
Ian O'Neill


Our Wise Seniors
Florence Hauer
Hazel Scott
Karl Maling




 
 
 
 
Anniversary
Darryl & Vita Dworkin
Alan & Ava Salowe


 
 
 
 
 
 
AnchorNeed to get in touch with your board representative?


Committee Chairperson

President Harry Silverman hjsilverman@optonline.net                              
Rabbi Cy Stanway rabbi@bethmiriam.org
Cantor Marnie Camhi cantor@bethmiriam.org
Religious School Principal Stella J. Stanway stellastanway@bethmiriam.org
Administrator Shari Nightingale tbmoffice@bethmiriam.org
Administrative Assistant Frankie Langer tbmreception@bethmiriam.org
Youth Group Leader Stella Stanway stellastanway@bethmiriam.org
Youth Group President Sallie Haas salliehaas@yahoo.com
Building Superintendent Rosy Franceschy 732-762-4335
Family Affair Cy Stanway  rabbi@bethmiriam.org
Fund Allocation Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
House Committee Larry Nagel nagelone@optonline.net
Investment Comm Harry Silverman hjsilverman@optonline.net
Membership Steve Silver steve.silver@gmail.com
Rel. Sch. Bd. Wendy Sloter redheadwjs@comcast.net
Sisterhood - Point Persons Debbie Gerbman dgerbman@comcast.net
 Cindy Singer cinsing@aol.com
Relig. Pract. Sharon Silverman shari4h@gmail.com
 Marian Gross mariangross@msn.com
Special Events Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com 
Youth Group Gary Pess handman613@gmail.com
Social Action Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
Programming I. Mark Cohen imarkcohen@comcast.net
Immediate Past President Michael Gross mgross@ghclaw.com
Vice Presidents Robert Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
Treasurer Lori Goldstein lgoldstein83@verizon.net

Alan Darnell
aland8@aol.com
Alvin Goldman
alvingoldm@aol.com
Andrea Phox
andreaphox@gmail.com
Barry Edison
eyedocbarry@aol.com
Brian Gillet
gilletbg@optonline.net
Chase Kaplan
kaplanstudios@mac.com
Cindy Singer
cinsing@aol.com
Danielle Delcuore
Danielledelcuore@yahoo.com
Emily Feldman
fancyme123@yahoo.com
Gary Pess
garypess@gmail.com
Heather Foster
heatherfoster@optonline.net
Judy Berg
judy@judithbergassociates.com
Len Berkley
lberkeley@weinerlesniak.com
Lori Goldstein
lgoldstein83@verizon.net
Marian Gross
mariangross@msn.com
Mark Cohen
imarkcohen@comcast.net
Mike Gross
mgross@ghclaw.com
Pat Shapiro
Patshapirorn@aol.com
Paula Rowland
prowland13@gmail.com
Rich Berger
rsberger51@gmail.com
Robert Kellert
bobeggs@aol.com
Sharon Silverman
shari4h@gmail.com
Steve Silver
steve.silver@gmail.com
Stuart Lippsett
lippsett1@verizon.net
Wendy Sloter
redheadwjs@comcast.net


Rabbi Emeritus z'l Joseph Goldman


 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
 
 
 

 
 
 
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