Weekly Devotional by Kathy Marian - February 6, 2019

Coping with the death of a parent is difficult. For me, the roller coaster of feelings was the most complicated I ever faced. I searched for ways to be present with my loss, alleviate my suffering, honor my father’s memory, and create a space for my feelings so I could find this “new normal” others talked about.

Grief, for me, was a mixture of strong, difficult emotions including anger, sorrow, hopelessness, worry, fear, anxiety and pain. To release these emotions, I found myself impatient, frustrated, withdrawn and in tears. I also felt numb, fuzzy and disconnected.

At Christmas, Steve and I traveled to New Mexico to spend time in the desert. While there, I found the space and time to reflect and approach these hard emotions. I hiked, walked a Native American prayer circle and stacked stones in prayer. I allowed myself to be present with my emotions. As I acknowledged my feelings, I was able live with them and move through each emotion and feel deeply. I was compassionate with myself and I honored my feelings.

This week, while at a conference, I learned that my approach to coping with my grief had a name: Mindfulness. Mindfulness means paying attention, in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally. Who would have ever thought that in my rapidly paced life, my body realized that I need to take the time to be fully in the moment with myself, my feelings and my actions.

As I read more about the practice of mindfulness, I came across an article by Dr. Amit Sood from the Mayo Clinic. It shares ways to practice mindfulness each day. I thought I would share it. Perhaps, it could be of use to you as well.

  • Monday: Gratitude – Find things to be thankful for throughout your day, and include them in your loving kindness meditation or a gratitude journal.
  • Tuesday: Compassion – Set an intention to decrease any pain or suffering in others that you encounter throughout your day.
  • Wednesday: Acceptance – Accept yourself as you are and others as they are; appreciate yourself and other people without trying to change them.
  • Thursday: Meaning and Purpose – Think about your ultimate purpose in life, and where and how you find meaning.
  • Friday: Forgiveness – Forgive yourself first, then extend your forgiveness to others for any past transgressions.
  • Saturday: Celebration – Make sure to take a day to celebrate all the joy in your life and the lives of others.
  • Sunday: Reflection – Reflect on your week, your month, your year, or whatever period of time makes sense to you in the moment; this can be accomplished through meditation, prayer, or simple awareness.

May we grant ourselves the time and space needed to care for ourselves and our spirits - Amen

Kathy Marian and her husband, Stephen, are founding members of Saint Andrew Christian Church. She is the current chair of the personnel committee. She can be reached at kmmarian@gmail.com

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