April 2017



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From the Rabbi
Rabbi Cy Stanway

In some ways, Pesach is seen as the most important Jewish holiday.  It is filled with preparation of the home and the Seder service itself takes immense preparation.  So why is Pesach so important and why spend so much time preparing for it?

As important as the Days of Awe are, they are days of repentance and the liturgy generally focuses on our growth as individuals.  But Passover is different.  This is the holiday when we are forged as a people, the Jewish people. 

The events preceding the story of the Exodus and the Revelation at Sinai is a tribal story and not a story of peoplehood or unity in any meaningful way.  But the Exodus pulls the entire people together - literally and metaphorically - and our travels and destiny are one.

We have traveled immense distances over time and space as one people.  And yet, in the pinnacle of freedom's place - America - we don't seem to be traveling together.  Mirroring the same divisions as we see in the secular world, Jews do not assemble together in the way they used to.  To use the phrase from a very powerful book, we are, more often than not, 'bowling alone.'

This happens when a people flourish.  It happened in the Bible and the divisions actually led to civil war!  But the divisions did not last for long.  Why?  Because even though divisions can be bitter and deep, the truth that we are still one people with a common God, a common destiny and are in a common family and that truth always comes to surface. 

The simple truth is that, in the end, Jews will help other Jews.  We will, as in the Exodus, pick each other up and build a Jewish community that extends beyond our immediate place in space and time.  It is part of our DNA and even when we wish to repress it, the truth is every Jew knows that which is expressed in the Talmud: 'All Jews are responsible for one another.' 

The Exodus and the Passover story is that story: we have been there for one another and continue to be.  Passover is the holiday based upon a shared experience, a shared history, and symbolized in a shared meal.  That is why we open our Seder to everyone 'who is hungry and wishes to eat.'  The food is the symbol - what we are really inviting people to do is to be a part of the great experience of the Jewish people and their quest for freedom and the freedom of all people as well as the notion that, no matter what happens, the Jewish people are one people. 

May you have a meaningful and sweet Pesach surrounded by old friends and new, filled with light and purpose.
From the Cantor
Cantor Marnie Camhi

Spring at TBM and in the Jewish calendar is chock full of holidays! We just celebrated Purim last month (and I must say the day was fantastic!) and now in April, we are heading into Passover, which begins on Monday night, April 10. Here is the link to view our Little Mermaideleh Purim Spiel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ou_MiN7ji_w

Our Passover Celebrations will be on Sunday, April 2 and Monday, April 10. I will be leading our annual Women’s Seder with Sisterhood on April 2. This Seder begins at 4pm. Please join us for this always moving and fun event! Our Congregational Seder will be held on April 10 (the 1st night) led by Rabbi Cy and me.

All of the info to register for both Passover programs can be found in this newsletter, the Temple website, Face Book page and in Elijah.
Chag Sameach!
Cantor Marnie cantor@bethmiriam.org

From the Principal
Stella Stanway
Another amazing SALTY Purim carnival is in the books!! We had a wonderful turnout for the carnival. Children enjoyed the costume parade, with the winner receiving 10 prize tickets. The Purim fish were as popular as ever. All our games including a few new ones from last year were a hit. We even tried Henna tattoos this year and there was a long line for that. We had a lovely gift auction with nice gifts from the community for the winners. The Edison Family won the 50/50 and generously donated their prize back to the youth group. Alan Bonner and his team of (merry) men provided the snackage and donated all those profits to SALTY as well.

On behalf of the members of SALTY who worked very hard with set up, break down and manning all the games, I would like to thank members of the TBM community and all our guests for supporting SALTY at the carnival!
SALTY would like to thank the following businesses for their thoughtful and generous donations, and we encourage you support them as they have supported SALTY:

Turning Point
Shapiro’s Deli
Max Challenge of Ocean
Float Studio
Russo of Asbury Park
The Cabin
Whipped Creperie
Cheese Cave
Pink Elephant Pottery
SALTY also thanks the following friends for their donations of goods, services and time:

Audrey Vernick
Harry & Sharon Silverman
Debbie Gerbman
Alyssa Reisler
Mike Beson
Anna Vernick
Al Goldman
Nancy Wiener
Annie & Steve Swartz
Jayme Lowenstein
Allan Bonnar
Karen Pingitore

There were many donations that were dropped off and it’s possible we were not aware who dropped them off, so, if names were left off this list we apologize and please let us know so we can thank you.
April 21, 6:30 PM

We continue our early service series with a service especially created for young families.  Join us on April 21 at 6:30 for a Simchat Shabbat combined with our Visual Tefillah!  The service is filled with music and joy and is guaranteed to go no more than one hour which opens up the whole evening to you and the family.  Everyone is welcome to attend and we encourage you to bring friends who are looking for a Shabbat experience tailored especially for them.
Breakfast with the Rabbi
Ageless Wisdom: Lifetime Lessons from the Bible
April 23, 9:30 AM

You are invited to Breakfast with the Rabbi on April 23 at 9:30 AM.  We will welcome Rabbi Brooks Susman and Dr. Chris Bellitto as they inspire us with 'Ageless Wisdom: Lifetime Lessons from the Bible."

What lessons might we learn about wisdom and growing older from the Bible? Is it true that wisdom comes with age or can we learn about wisdom from young people, too? Join us as we draw lessons from famous (and not so famous) Biblical stories to learn how to gather wisdom and appreciate her gifts of blessings and burdens, patience and laughter, and reaping and sowing. Join us as Christopher Bellitto of Kean University talks about his new book in a discussion led by Rabbi Brooks Susman.

There is no charge and all are welcome.

Office News

Happy Passover from the temple office!  We wish you and your families good health and happiness!
The office was buzzing last month with  excitement of the Purim! Thanks to everyone who helped make it a success! We hope everyone enjoyed their Purim Bags, the spiel and carnival!

As we prepare for Passover, don’t forget that we are offering a Community Seder as well as a Women’s Seder. Check this issue of the newsletter for all the particulars! Come join us!

Always feel free to contact the office if you have any questions or concerns. We’re here to help you and/or guide you in the right direction.

Shari Nightingale and Frankie Langer
Mazel Tov, Lucca

Lucca Tetelbom Labanco was born in Manhattan the son of a Brazilian Jewish mother and an Italian American father. Lucca’s early years were spent in New York City speaking both Portuguese and English. He first attended New York’s public schools and was admitted into the city wide gifted and talented program at NEST+M.He was delighted to move with his family to New Jersey in the summer of 2013. He is currently an Honor Roll student at Ranney School in Tinton Falls. Participating in several math competitions, Lucca rose to the State level. Lucca is a creative, funny and a bright young gentleman. He plays baseball, basketball, tennis, and football. He likes challenges and riddles. He is interested in politics and current affairs. His favorite TV show is John Oliver’s, ‘Last Week Tonight’”. Lucca chose to have his Bar Mitzvah in Porto Alegre, Brazil on April 1st to celebrate with his maternal family at the Reform synagogue where his cousin Ana Schuchman is a Cantor. He will read the Torah at Temple Beth Miriam on May 5th during  the Friday evening service. He is up to the challenge of going through the process in 2 cultures and being “double certified”.  His chosen project of Kishrei Halev is to work helping seniors in assisted living facilities in the USA and Brazil with their daily needs.
Men's Club

The Men's Club had our Thursday Night Bowling Night at Bradley Beach Bowl. Everyone had a good time and the food was good. Not surprisingly there were some really good bowlers and others who played like they haven't seen a bowling alley since the 70's.......

TBM wants to thank The Sisterhood for their very generous donation of 40 new prayer books for the Days of Awe, Mishkan HaNefesh.  Your support and donation is appreciated so much.

We also would like to acknowledge Barry and Joanne Edison for graciously donating their raffle winnings back to the temple. Wow what a wonderful thing to do! You are so appreciated.

Thank you to Cantor Marnie Camhi who made a donation from her Discretionary Fund for a new portable sound system and stands.  Thank you  Cantor Marnie!

Another big thank to Pat Shapiro who once again volunteered her time in the office to help out. We love you Pat!

Thank you to all that participated in the raffle and helped to make it a successful event!
May their memories be a blessing

April 7
Benjamin Aronsohn*
Wilma Aronsohn*
Isidore Bady*
Gabirel Barnett
Benjamin Bauman*
Joseph Brower*
Michael Browe*
William Epstein
Rachel Gelb*
Judy Glassman
Sally Glogoff
Millie Goldstein
Esther Gorsky
Kitty Grad*
William Greenbaum
Mildred Hirsch*
Peter Iber*
Lily Klein*
Harry Lewis*
Virginia Martin
Ennis Mauer
Marlene Neiderman
Joshua Neimark*
Francesca Nelson
Vera Phillips*
Sarah Rosenstein
Morris Ross
Shirley Rossien
Robert Salzberg
William Setrin
Charles Weiner

April 14
Joseph Begman*
Eli Berke
Pauline Cinnamon
Max Eichenbaum*
Antoinette Farella
Adele Feibel
Meyer Friedman*
Timothy Gavin
Rose Gavin
Sarah Kaye*
Martin Kern*
Irving Kirshbaum*
Walter Kohm*
Evelyn Kramer
Seymour Lapidus
Howard Lawn*
Minnie Leffert
Henry Leon*
Belle Moore
Muriel Peck
Diane Rich
Sarah Schwartz
Nancy Stalberg
Richard Weinberg
Larry Zucker
Margaret Zuckerman

April 21
Philip Ader
Ciony Bacani
Nancy Behrman*
Rose Berg*
Isidor Berger*
Isadore Bey
Adolph Bialek*
Samuel Borinsky*
Edward Carlin
Abe Cohen*
Harold Dobrin
Alfred Feibel
Barry Fisher
Ceil Freedman
Hermen Holzman*
Amalie Jacobson*
Jean Jacobson*
Marjorie Miller*
Jacob Neiderhoffer
Savannah Oxfeld
David Pashall*
Murray Revits*
Edward Rosenthal*
Julius Schlatner
Max Singer
Benjamin Snyder*
Richard Topper
Edward Weinstein*
Ida Zlotkin*

April 28
Joan Budner*
Carl Casriel
Sidney Coe
Alexander Cohen
Betty Cohen*
John Costanzo
Joseph Gasarch*
Morris Gelb*
Jennie Goldberg
Philip Gordon*
Isidore Horowitz*
Emanuel Jaffe
Julius Katchen*
Berverly Lerner*
Mildred Levine*
Harvey Miner*
Sidney Peckerman
Lillian Ripner
Paul Romano
Sadie Rosen
Rose Sidman
Mitchell Sherwin
Nettie Stolzenberg
Martin Wahl
Bertha York
Rabbi Discretionary Fund
In memory of Paul Frankel
-Bonnie Cohen

In loving memory of my cousin, Paul Frankel
-Amy Mintzer Abramovitz

In honor of my cousin, Dee Frankel, an "Eshet Chayil" (Woman of Valor)
-Amy Mintzer Abramovitz

In honor of Rabbi Cy for his thought provoking class.
-Carl & Sandra Koreen

Family Affair Fund
In memory of Paul Frankel
-Judy Benn

Goldman Fund
To Deanna Frankel in loving memory
of her husband Paul Frankel.
-Wendy Sloter

In memory of James Petty Jr., brother of Vita Dworkin
-Wendy Sloter

Tzedakeh Fund
In memory of Paul Frankel
-Carole & Karl Maling

Roz Nagel Fund for Religious School Projects
In memory of Ben Maser
-Francine Cohen

Conn Music Fund
Thank you to for my thoughtful Purim Basket.
-Jane Gerechoff

Prayer Book Fund
A gift of 40 new prayer books
-The Sisterhood
Wish List
In memory of Paul Frankel
-Frank Marsico

In memory of Paul Frankel
-Ilene & Bob Kellert

In memory of Paul Frankel
-Barbra Cohen

In memory of Paul Frankel
-Mark & Kathy Cohen

In memory of Paul Morris,
father of Betta Auerbach
-Betta Auerbach

Library Renovation Fund
In memory of Nancy Rosenzweig,
wife, mother & grandmother
-Dr. & Mrs. Richard Daniels

In memory of Paul Frankel
-Michael & Marian Gross

Social Action Fund
In memory of James Petty
-Mark & Kathy Cohen

In memory of Paul Frankel
-Phyllis & Bob Segall

The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievement
In honor of Vicki Brosniak, Michael Gross, Carole Maling and Paula Rowland's Birthdays!
-Milton & ClaraGee Ziment

In memory of Steven Sheer
-Milton & ClaraGee Ziment

April Birthdays & Anniversaries
 Mazel tov to all that celebrate this month!

David Babitsky
Samuel Babitsky
Judith Berg
Richard Berger
Steven Binenbaum
Jack Bricken
Jacqueline Coben
Patricia Coelho
Joni Darnell
Malcolm Deener
Doris Dobrin
Carly Dobrin
Pamela Dobrin
Lawrence Dobrin
Sondra Epstein
Sherry Esposito
Philip Falcone
Joshua Feldman
Dana Fisher
David Fisher
Kathy Friedman
Carly Goldstein
Benjamin Green
Ava Green
Arthur Hodes
Lisa Jacobson
Makenzie Katz
David Kawut
Jacob Knotts
Andrew Krantz
Eliana Lehman
Aaron Levine
Elle Levine
Christine Levy
Samantha Librader
Kim McConnell
Joshua Miller
Benjamin Miller
Bryce Peckman
Rebecca Pess
Rachel Pess
Rayna Poplawski
Steven Reisler
Alissa Reisler
Liza Restifo
Jacob Rubinstein
Simon Segal
Lisa Setrin
Jordan Swartz
Lucca Tetelbom LaBanco
Elliot Topper
Michael Vernick
Lyn Zieve
Anne Zucker
Happy Anniversary to these special couples!

Eugene Horowitz & Anne Owens
Geoffrey & Elaina Lippsett
Hal & Lori Goldstein
Steven & Cynthia Singer
Erick Bosniak & Charli Bohm
Michael & Marian Gross

Temple Beth Miriam Funds List 
Tree of Life Leaf - $180

The Yahrzeit Memorials -$500
Prayer Book Fund (inscribed $36)

Social & Community Action Fund

Family Affair

Heimlich –Aaron Library Fund

The Endowment Fund

Centennial Fund

Tzedakeh Fund

Library Shelves  - $1,000

Evelyn Blank Choral Fund

Pess Family Youth Group Fund
Teacher's Endowment Fund

Rabbi Joseph Goldman Fund for Jewish Learning

Religious School Renovation

Heimlich Memorial Scholarship Fund

Dorothy Hirsch Scholarship

Rabbi Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Rabbi Discretionary Fund)

 Cantor Discretionary Fund*
(Separate check payable to & for Cantor Discretionary Fund)

Roz Nagel Fund for Religious School Special Projects

The Carolyn Meyer Memorial Lecture Fund
Neimark Shabbaton Institute

Berg-Bialek Youth Leadership Retreat Fund

Conn Music Fund

The Norty Kern Youth Scholarship Fund

Arthur & Hazel Harmon Fund

The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholastic Achievement

Sonya Grossman Art & Beautification Fund

Temple Beth Miriam Wish List Fund

The Katz Family Fund

Temple Beth Miriam Camp Fund

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Committee Chairperson

President Harry Silverman hjsilverman@optonline.net
Rabbi Cy Stanway rabbi@bethmiriam.org
Cantor Marnie Camhi cantor@bethmiriam.org
Religious School Principal Stella J. Stanway stellastanway@bethmiriam.org
Administrator Shari Nightingale tbmoffice@bethmiriam.org
Administrative Assistant Frankie Langer tbmreception@bethmiriam.org
Youth Group Leader Stella Stanway stellastanway@bethmiriam.org
Youth Group President Anna Vernick anvernick@ctemc.org
Building Superintendent Rosy Franceschy 732-762-4335
Family Affair Cy Stanway rabbi@bethmiriam.org
Fund Allocation Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
House Committee Keith Kaplan kpkaplan@msn.com
Investment Comm Harry Silverman hjsilverman@optonline.net
Membership Steve Silver steve.silver@gmail.com
Rel. Sch. Bd. Wendy Sloter redheadwjs@comcast.net
Sisterhood - Point Persons Debbie Gerbman dgerbman@comcast.net
Cindy Singer cinsing@aol.com
Relig. Pract. Sharon Silverman shari4h@gmail.com
Special Events Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
Youth Group Gary Pess handman613@gmail.com
Social Action Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
Programming I. Mark Cohen imarkcohen@comcast.net
Fundraising Steve Peckman steve.peckman@gmail.com
Immediate Past President Michael Gross mgross@ghclaw.com
Vice Presidents Robert Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
Treasurer Lori Goldstein lgoldstein83@verizon.net
I. Mark Cohen imarkcohen@comcast.net
Men's Club Barry Edison eyedocbarry@aol.com
Secretary Emily Feldman fancyme123@yahoo.com
Leonard Berkeley lberkeley@lhbrealty.com
Danielle Delcuore danielledelcuore@yahoo.com
Emily Feldman fancyme123@yahoo.com
Chase Kaplan kaplanstudios@mac.com
Heather Foster heatherfoster@optonline.net
Steve Silver steve.silver@gmail.com
Brian Gillet gilletbg@optonline.net
Alvin Goldman alvingoldm@aol.com
Lori Goldstein lgoldstein83@verizon.net
Marian Gross mariangross@msn.com
Bob Kellert bobeggs@aol.com
Joel Kreizman kreizjo@aol.com
Stuart Lippsett lippsett1@verizon.net
Andrea Phox andreaphox@gmail.com
Patricia Shapiro patshapirorn@aol.com
Sharon Silverman shari4h@gmail.com
Wendy J. Sloter redheadwjs@comcast.net

Rabbi Emeritus z'l Joseph Goldman

APRIL 2017

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday


Executive Board Meeting

SALTY elections

8:00 AM Midrash Study

12:15 PM Religious School Committee Meeting


8:00 PM Board Meeting



10:00 AM - 11:00 AM Theology Class



NFTY 6th & 7Th grade event

7:30 PM Shabbat Service


Jolie Harkavy Bat Mitzvah 5PM

NFTY 6th & 7th grade event


JFCS Event

Lower School Passover Adventure

Teen Academy

8:00 AM Midrash Study

12:00 PM SALTY GenBo Meeting

4:00 PM Women's Seder




10:00 AM - 11:00 AM Theology Class


7:30 PM RPC Meeting


NFTY Spring Kallah

SALTY service & Installation of officers

Scholarship applications due

7:00 PM Wine & Cheese Preneg

7:30 PM Shabbat Service


Chocolate Seder


3:00 PM Tam Tams

5:00 PM SALTeens


No School


Passover 1st night

Passover Seder @ TBM


Passover 2nd Night

Office is



No School

10:00 AM - 11:00 AM Theology Class

7:00 PM Membership Meeting



7:30 PM Shabbat Service




No School




10:00 AM - 11:00 AM Theology Class



Spring Kallah 8th-12th grades

6:30 PM Shabbat Service (note earlier time)


Spring Kallah 8th-12th grades



Breakfast with the Rabbi

Spring Kallah 8th-12th grades

8:00 AM Midrash Study


8:00 PM Board Meeting



10:00 AM - 11:00 AM Theology Class



6:00 PM Grade 4 & 6 Shabbat dinner

7:30 PM Shabbat Service




Grade 4 Matan Siddur Deco

Grade 6 Tallit Workshop

8:00 AM Midrash Study


12:15 PM Religious School Committee Meeting




10:00 AM - 11:00 AM Theology Class


7:30 PM RPC Meeting


7:00 PM Wine & Cheese Preneg

7:30 PM Shabbat Service Lucca Tetelbom LaBanco reading Torah





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