From the Rabbi
Cy Stanway
Purim is, without doubt, the strangest of all Jewish holidays.  We dress up in masks and go around hootin' and hollerin' (as we used to say in Mississippi) whenever we hear the name of Haman.  We have a carnival and celebrate our salvation from certain demise at the hand of clueless king, Ahashverosh, and his conniving Prime Minister, Haman.

There are some interesting traditions and laws that Purim has given rise to.  There are laws about the reading of the Megillah, the place of certain prayers on the holiday, what is and is not permitted to be done during Purim, and so forth.  But the strangest of all laws is the law that says that we are supposed to get so drunk we can't tell the difference between Haman and Mordechai, the bad guy and the good guy of the story.

This has given rise to the myth that, because we allow this public drunkenness once a year, it must mean that Jews don't drink.  There are no Jewish alcoholics.  Jews don't use drugs.  There are no Jewish abusers.  You will never find a Jewish addict.  I still hear this every so often.

Don't believe the myth.  It is a complete lie.

There are just as many Jewish substance abusers per capita as there are in the non-Jewish world.  You know them.  But you might not know you know them.  Or maybe you know someone in recovery.  Whatever your experience with substance abuse you should remember that Jews are just as prone as anyone else.

We know that alcoholism is a disease and it must be treated as a disease.  But too many people are afraid to ask for help.  I get that.  So I am going to make available on the temple website a link that you can use to begin your journey for help if you are one of those who is looking for help but don't know where or how to start.  Of course, you can reach out to me at any time.

The myth that Jews don't drink is bogus.  It is truly 'fake news.'  

There are other ways to enjoy Purim than getting drunk.  Eat more hamentashen or stuff yourself with our Purim Carnival hot dogs!  Come enjoy Purim with your congregation.  There is no reason to put your recovery away for even an hour.  Skip the Jewish tradition of getting drunk.  Embrace the Jewish tradition of choosing life.

From the Principal
Stella Stanway
The SALTY Purim Carnival is on Sunday February 25. You can support SALTY in the following ways:

· Buy tickets to the carnival in advance- Advance ticket sales order forms will be send home on 12/28- tickets are a bit discounted then the ones sold at the door.

· Support the Silent Auction- please donate any new unwanted “re-gifts” you may have received over the holidays. Also please help by soliciting any mom & pop businesses (who don’t need to consult corporate) for donations. Usually they require a letter from the non-profit (that’s us) and those will be available on demand.
  Send empty (large) baskets to be sued for packaging donations

· Come and bring your friends to play the games, eat the food and bid on the auction items.

In other news, SALTY spent a few hours with Kevin Garrison of the Blessing Bags Brigade over Martin Luther King Weekend. He arranged for us to serve two dinner seatings at the Jersey Shore Rescue Mission. Eight SALTY members gathered at TBM to pack up and load all of the donations from our cancelled Midnight Run. We donated all of it to the Rescue Mission Thrift store. Following our work at the Mission, we headed over to the Catsbury Park Café where we got to enjoy a nibble, pet some cats and get to know Kevin and his organization’s mission, which is to hand out blessing bags- gallon size ziplock bags filled with necessities for the homeless. We truly inspired by his work and hope to involve SALTY, the Religious School and all of TBM in helping him accomplish his work
From the Cantor
Marnie Camhi
Dress in your best 1980’s attire, tease your hair, grab your grogger and join us for our RAD ‘80s-early ‘90s pop music themed Purim Spiel, The New Queen on the Block on Sunday, February 25. (Check the calendar for the time.)

Sing and dance (and laugh) to the music of Madonna, Michael Jackson, Cyndi Lauper, Debbie Gibson, The New Kids on the Block and more set with Purim parody words!

Our religious school students, parents, teachers, board members, staff
and clergy have been working very hard on stage and behind the scenes to prepare this wonderful Purim Spiel for you!

Bring a box of pasta to use as a grogger during the spiel (to blot out “you know who’s” name) and then we will donate the boxes to the food pantry. Stay after the spiel for the SALTY Purim Carnival at noon.
Cantor Marnie Camhi
Men's Club
   The Men's Club had our first, and probably not our last, Scotch tasting meeting on January 11 at my home. We discussed upcoming events including our Pizza, Beer and Torah night on Sunday, March 11 at 7pm at Nick's Pizza in Wanamassa.

This past weekend was my niece's Bat Mitzvah at Shaari Emeth in Manalapan. I am proud to report that I was referred to as the coach of that "other" temple's softball team that beat us twice.

                                             Spring is Coming!

- February 11th is our next meeting, during which we will be helping the Purim Basket committee pack baskets. WE NEED ALL HANDS ON DECK to make this a quick and easy job. Packing will start at 9am at the temple.

- Help Needed - 2/28 is the Purim Potluck dinner. We need someone to buy drinks and desserts (keeping your receipts for reimbursement) and set up the table for parents to place their entrees. Pick up some items while shopping that week, and arrive 15 minutes early (5:15pm) to put them out along with paper goods we will have at the temple - EASY PEASY!! If you can help out, please contact Debbie Gerbman ( or 732-616-9711) ASAP.

- Save the Date - Chocolate 101 class, including wine pairings, is on the evening of March 3rd featuring 2 Chicks with Chocolate! This event is open to all of TBM and their friends! Bring your husband, best friend, mom, brother, or neighbor, just to name a few. See flyer in this newsletter and the E-lijah.
   Canadian Picnic 
       January 21

 Birthday  &  Anniversary  Blessings are Tomorrow, February 2 at 7:30 pm.          
 We hope to see you there!
Mark Your Calendars!

Administrator Frankie and Administrative Assistant Tyler will be hosting a Hot Chocolate Oneg on Friday, February 16. Come enjoy some hot chocolate as well as some other fun chocolate desserts, like chocolate covered pretzels and strawberries!

We will also be having some special chocolate treats for those 21 and over, such as spiked hot chocolate and whipped cream!
Grab your groggers and wear your favorite ‘80s clothes and join us for TBM’s totally rad 80’s themed Purim Spiel “The New Queen on the Block” (written by Cantor Marnie) on Sunday, February 25 at 11am. Sing, dance and laugh to the music of Michael Jackson, Madonna, Cyndi Lauper, Debbie Gibson & more!  And then, right after the Spiel, we will go into the SALTY Purim Carnival!  Food, games, fun!  Everyone welcome!
        Temple Beth Miriam is Grateful
         for the Following Contributions:

Heimlich-Aaron Library Fund
In memory of H. Lawrence Karasik, MD.
- Richard and Nora Daniels

 Pess Family Youth Group Fund
 In honor of the marriage of Rebecca Pess to Harold Rizacos
 In honor of the marriage of Rachel Pess to Michael Gross
 -The Pess Family

                               Happy Birthday to You!

Reyna Brandl, Stacey Gill, Ryan Green, Melia Camhi, Jill Herbert, Edwin Holmes, Maya Restifo, Mia Kouveliotes, Ilene Kellert, Ethan Gavin, Samuel Benson, Jill Levchuk, Mateo Cohen-Sanchez, Todd Katz, Natalie Fisher, Tara Preston, Marcy Zieve-Kouveliotes, Anne Swartz, Toby Stevens, Richard Epstein, Vivian Fried, Sophie Oglensky, Marc Rubenstein, Abbey Reisler, Julia Bader, Kylie Katz, Maxx Eichenbaum, Jeff Segal, Steven Peckman, John Levy, Katharina Weiner, Denise Wagenheim, Marnie Camhi, Darlene Katz, Danielle Reisler, Christina Prestup, Tyler Suchodolsky, Robert Fish, Max Bohm, and Billie Haas
                           Happy Anniversary to...
Leonard & Dawn Berkeley                           February 4th
Jesse & Karina Lehman                                 February 8th
Lewis & Judy Eisenberg                                February 14th
Terrence & Ester Piekarski Lysaght                February 14th
Jay & Barbara Van- Wiemokly                     February 24th
February Yahrzeits
February 2
Anne Alexander, Stanley Behrman, Harry Berger, Herman Blumenkrantz, Benjamin Bookbinder, Nathan Brodbar, Edith Brosniak, Sylvia Carris Lawrence, Philip Cohen, Janet Costanzo, Nathan Katz, Julius Klein. Miriam Krosney, Morris Levin, SueAnn Lieberman, Zelda Malachowsky, Mary Marshall, Jack Miller, Philip Newman, James Petty Sr., Jacob Piekarski, Scmuel Raz, Joseph Rubenstein, Benjamin Sherwin, Sidney Sloter, Dora Snyder, Josephine Specter, Pauline Spector, Rubin Stein, Minnie Susman, Silvia Tepper
February 9
June Ader
Sarah Auerbach
Marilyn Baum
Chip Broder
Anna Cohen
Seymour Eisenberg
Henriette Fabricant
Sara Flink
Sarah Gasarch
Levi Goldenberg
Marilyn Green
Saul Haas
Beatrice Herz
Jerome Kappel
Elias Khajezadeh
Samuel Klein
Doris Konner
Berta Korn
Abraham Lester
Ira Lichtenstein
Ruth Mintz
David Negnewitzky
Sam Nelson
Zale Oser
Jeannette Parker
Jeanette Rosenthal
Irving Schneider
Fanny Schwartz
Barbara Simon
Sophie Steinweiss
Nathan Tanenbaum
Ida Tanenbaum
Ida Terner
Thelma Thomson
Alexander Vineburg
Arlene Warshauer
Sarah Weber
Jacob Zlotkin
Harry Zohn

February 16
Lillian Aarons
Dorothy Ader
Alton Begel
Stanley Benjamin
Stanley Benn
Esther Berkeley
Charles Broder
Nathaniel Camp
Arlene Cheskin
Walter Epstein
Jack Feinberg
Victoria Feldman
Michael Gartenberg
Sylvia Golden
Florence Grieco
Abraham Haber
Robert Jacobson Sr.
Bert Kanarek
Ruth Kaplan
Sam Kastner
Edith Klugman
Rose Knotts
Joseph Lermer
Malvina Lowy
Theresa Miller
Sidney Mindlin
Harry Obstgarten
Jacqueline Ralby
Anna Reingold
Jack Richlin
Max Rosenkranz
Fanny Schlatner
Ann Schnur
Howard Tannenbaum
Dora Tartakow
Moritz Wagner

February 23
Herbert Bennett
Frances Berger
Hyman Cohen
David Cutler
Morris Daniels
Rose Dobrin
Irving Feldman
Abraham Flink
Sania Friedlin
Philip Glassman
Sophie Goldwasser
Miriam Gross
Herman Hirshfield
Abe Hodes
Marilyn Kaplan
Norton Kern
Dorothy Kohn
Samuel Kreizman
Herman Krim
Mike Leukowitz
Emma Moss
Marcia O'Connell
Hazel Pashall
Lil Popler
Ida Schlisserman
Herman Silverman
Arthur Strauss
Leo Tartakow
Rebekah Vogel
Robert Young

March 2
Mildred Bacher
Joseph Bernat
Leonard Bierman
Lois-Lee Bierman
Lewis Eisner
Charles Federman
Bertha Feinberg
Paul Frankel
Nathaniel Franzblau
Robert Friedman
Marvin Goldstein
Minna Greenbaum
Robert Greenbaum
Steven Hollander
Frances Kashdan
Rose Klein
Henrietta Krantz
Fanny Levine
Joseph Lorand
Samuel Lubarsky
Joseph Lubin
Harry Miller
Anne Mintzer
Ruth Mulnick
Aaron Neimark
Ronald Prout
Max Raskin
Maxine Rosenbloom
Sylvia Rosenkrantz
Daniel Schwadron
Herman Singer
David Smallwood
Rozlyn Statmore
William Voorhees
Sidney Zywotow

Mazal Tov, Michael Pingitore

US Air Force Airman Michael J Pingitore graduated from basic military training at Joint Base San Antonio-Lackland in San Antonio, Texas on January 18, 2018. 

Airman Pingitore completed an intensive eight week program that included training in military discipline and studies, Air Force core values, physical fitness and basic warfare principles and skills.

Airmen who complete basic training also earn four credits toward an associate in applied science degree through the Community College of the Air Force. 

Airman M. Pingitore is the son of LBFD Ex-Chief Donald and Karen Pingitore and is a 2017 graduate of Academy of Law and Public Safety, Long Branch, NJ.  He is also the brother of Airman Aaron Pingitore currently serving at Andrews Air Force Base.


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President Harry Silverman
Rabbi Cy Stanway
Cantor Marnie Camhi
Religious School Principal Stella J. Stanway
Adminstrator Frankie Langer
Administrative Assistant Tyler Barbato
Youth Group Leader Stella Stanway
Building Superintendent Rosy Franceschy 732-762-4335
Fund Allocation Bob Kellert
House Committee Keith Kaplan
Investment Comm Harry Silverman
Membership Steve Silver
Sisterhood - Point Persons Debbie Gerbman
Cindy Singer
Relig. Pract. Sharon Silverman
Special Events Bob Kellert
Youth Group Gary Pess
Social Action Steve Peckman
Programming I. Mark Cohen
Immediate Past President Michael Gross
Vice President Robert Kellert
I. Mark Cohen
Men's Club Barry Edison
Danielle Delcuore
Brian Gillet
Alvin Goldman
Lori Goldstein
Marian Gross
Bob Kellert
Stuart Lippsett
Andrea Phox
Patricia Shapiro
Sharon Silverman
Wendy J. Sloter
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